We as family members and friends almost automatically fall back on such trivia, because listening to someone talk about their own death is both unsettling and painful.

• 我们作为他们的家人或者朋友总是要自觉的依靠这些琐碎小事来慰藉，因为，毕竟听人谈论他们的死亡总会令人不安，悲痛。