Or, as I like to tell college students, the absolutely surest way to ruin your life is to have a relationship with someone with many serious problems, and to think that you can change this person.

• （或者，像我跟大学生们讲的那样，一个确信翻译无疑能毁掉你生活的方法就是与一个有着各种严重问题的人关系密切，并自认为能够改变这个人。）